Contents
- Three areas of responsibility
- The scene "I don't understand anything"
- "Say the Answer" scene
- The "I Can't Keep Up" scene
- How Help Should Change With Age
- Family contract
- Signs of the Right Help
- What to do today
Think of your homework as a small project. It has an owner, a consultant and a person who should not secretly do the work instead of the owner. The owner is a child.
Three areas of responsibility
| Zone | Examples |
|---|---|
| Baby. | Know the task, make the first attempt, note the incomprehensible |
| Parent | Organize an environment, ask a question, help break down a task |
| Red zone. | Decide, rewrite, dictate each answer |
The scene "I don't understand anything"
Don't explain the whole subject at once. Ask, “Show me the last place you can find.” This reduces the problem to a specific step.
"Say the Answer" scene
Give me not an answer, but a dosed help.
- clarifying question;
- One clue;
- an example of another type;
- a reference to the rule;
- Test your own hypothesis.
The "I Can't Keep Up" scene
Here help can be organizational: what is necessary, what to break, how much time is left when to stop.
How Help Should Change With Age
- In primary school, adults organize more.
- Later, the child keeps the tasks and plans the order.
- In high school, parents are increasingly becoming counselors.
- By high school, control should be spot-on unless there are special reasons.
Family contract
| Rule. | Why? |
|---|---|
| First an independent attempt | Training the start of the task |
| Request for assistance on a specific issue | Developing diagnostics |
| A parent doesn't rewrite a job | Maintains the real level of the child |
| There's a time to end. | Protects sleep and exercise |
Signs of the Right Help
- The child can explain where they are stuck.
- After the prompt continues himself;
- Parental assistance is gradually decreasing.
- Errors remain visible to the teacher.
- Homework doesn't turn into a family conflict every night.
What to do today
- Choose one task where you usually help too much.
- Give the child a first try.
- Use the question instead of the answer.
- Stop earlier than usual.
- See what the child could do on his own.
The most successful parental care gradually makes itself less needed. That's her main criterion.
